Triggers: Everyone has them. They are things that come up in the present that remind us of the past and not in a good way.
It can happen with friendships, but most of the time it happens with relationships – partners.
Your ex has done something that caused you great pain and now you are with someone new and he or she does or says something that puts you back in that place with all those same feelings. This is more of an emotional scar.
Most of the time we do not know exactly what our triggers are until someone pushes one of the buttons and then there we are back in that horrible place – feeling crappy and now questioning our new relationship.
It is not because that person has necessarily done anything wrong and you don’t want to take out your past hurts on your new partner – they have no idea.
When these come up in your relationship, the best way to get past them is to share and communicate and come up with a plan together how to best get past this trigger.
You don’t want to live in the past and you don’t want to take out on future relationships.
Find out what your triggers are and work on them, so they don’t take over or run your future relationships.
Realize and recognize that the person you are with is different and that it is not about them, it is about you and your triggers.
Questions to Ponder:
What are your triggers?
Who pushes those buttons?
Have you been burying them or working on them?
If you would like assistance and would like to delve into this further, please reach out to People Under Construction at www.peopleunderconstruction.com or contact support@peopleunderconstruction.com.
