In a world of social distancing how do we convey our love to our loved ones and make sure they know we love them?
I say this because I was raised in a very loving family – we hugged regularly and showed our love in a healthy physical manner – touching a hand or shoulder at the appropriate time.
This was reinforced when I lived in Mexico for a few years as that is part of the normal greeting in Mexico when you meet someone or see someone – you hug and kiss on the cheek.
I have been known to friends and family as the hug lady! This has been very helpful as I have learned things along the way and grown. I know that this is why I am so close with some people. You don’t always know what a person is going through and that hug may mean more to that person than you know. I hug everyone and I haven’t let Covid change that in me – I don’t push my way in to hug people but am there to provide that hug that they know me for. I also would never hug someone that doesn’t want to be hugged.
However, I have let it change me when it comes to my parents and it’s not something I have done as much as them. They just don’t feel comfortable anymore and tend to keep their distance – but they are also in their 80’s, so they need to take a different approach. They also don’t hug their grandchildren anymore and I know that it bothers both of them as they have commented on it many times.
I have often thought of this, their connection to others and wonder if they still feel loved. I know we say that we love each other but that physical act confirms it and reinforces it.
I have heard throughout the years’ different people’s philosophies on how many hugs a day we need to feel loved.
I’ve heard as low as 4 per day up to 16 per day.
We are all different, so think about it and figure out how many you need a day to truly feel loved and come up with a plan to fulfill that number of hugs per day!
Here are a few links to check out.
https://www.healthline.com/health/hugging-benefits#7.-Hugs-help-you-communicate-with-others
https://www.happify.com/hd/8-reasons-why-you-need-at-least-8-hugs-a-day/
https://learnfromblogs.com/how-many-hugs-you-need-a-day
As I think about that from my parents’ perspective, I think of others – how has this affected our society and their love tank. This is another topic of discussion that I will elaborate on more tomorrow.
Questions to Ponder:
How has socially distancing affected you on an internal (emotional) point of view?
How has it affected you mentally?
How has it affected you physically?
How many hugs do you need per day to feel loved?
What can you do to make changes to truly feel loved?
Instead of hugging, what are other options out there that can give you that feeling of being loved? Please share these options with me at support@tipinions.com.
